A long Overdue Life Update
It has been so long since I wrote a blog about anything. I’ve been posting outfit ideas, gift guides, and frilly stuff for a while but I figured it was time for a little life update. All that blogger stuff is cute, but when life offline gets real, it all kinda goes out the window.
So much has been shifting over the last year or two and honestly, it has my head spinning. I’m in this 23-25ish stage where everything is starting to make sense, yet everything is changing at the same time. These years have been so… strange and rewarding and wild and confusing.
I’m going to share what’s going on in my life now, but let me start with a little background.
After graduating college in 2019, I was turning 22 and I only knew one thing for sure: I did not want to work in journalism. My degree is in Media Journalism and Film Communications with a focus in Broadcast Journalism, and the plan was always to be the next Oprah. Well, plans changed.
I had to figure out pretty quickly what to do because I was still living in my college city and had to pay bills like a real life adult (what a scam). I worked in hospitality as a server all through college so I decided to continue serving until I figured out the rest.
For the first 6 months after graduating, I felt great. I met my now boyfriend 2 weeks after graduation, we hit it off, and had an amazing time together. My friends were all still in the area, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders since finishing my degree, and life was really good.
Then came 2020 and the whole world turned upside down. I don’t even need to spell out what a year that was for me because I know it was a crazy one for all of us. I actually really enjoyed quarantine and I never expected to learn so much about myself and what I really want out of life.
Fast forward to 2021. Here we are now. Let’s take this in small bites.
Girl, I am DONE working. I’m over it. I know my friends are tired of hearing about me being ready to retire at 24 but I am so serious. I know a lot of people say this, but honestly, there is something inside of me that breaks a little every time I put on my work uniform. This just is NOT IT. Now, because I’m not the type to just sit and let life happen to me, I’m shifting my focus to building wealth without exchanging time for money. I’m dipping my toes into the real estate investment world so wish me luck. As I’ve mentioned before, I have a bunch of other business ideas as well, but the goal is to get real estate investing to fund my other dreams.
I’ll say this first. I genuinely love and enjoy my partner. He checks so many of my boxes and I’m grateful that our paths crossed that one Friday through Tinder. We have the best time together, we work hard to honor each other, and we’re in it for the long haul. But being in a healthy relationship is hard sometimes. We’re both growing so much individually and trying to set ourselves up for the life we want, so merging our ideal lives has proven to be a challenge. In past relationships, stakes were never this high. I was young and marriage wasn’t even in the cards. But now, it is the goal. It’s what we want and it’s what we’re working towards. That kicks things up a notch for sure. As is true in most relationships, communication has had us by our necks at times, but we’re in a rhythm now where we both feel comfortable expressing our needs and wants freely (thank God).
Finding friends as an adult has not been easy. Many of my college friends moved back home so I’ve had to make new friends while nurturing my long distance friendships. I even got on Bumble BFF and that was a flop. At first I was a little down about not having a bunch of friends around like I used to, but now, I feel like this is just the season I’m in. I lean on my girls when I need them whether they are up the street or miles away. With that being said, if you’re in the DMV and wanna be besties...hey girl!
It’s time for me to get a therapist. This quarter life crisis is really setting in and I refuse to let it consume me. I know logically that I’m exactly where I should be in life, and I can encourage others to believe that for themselves until I'll blue in the face, but sometimes it doesn’t feel that way for me. I went to therapyforblackgirls.com and found a therapist who looks like she’ll be a good fit. I’m officially on the waitlist and I’m really excited about it. I’ve heard amazing things from my friends who are in therapy, so I’m hopeful that it will help me sort my life out.
I sometimes think, “Noni why are you putting all your business out on the internet?” and I always come back to this: if sharing what I’m working through helps even one person, then it is worth it. My brand is all about navigating life as a twenty-something and real stuff like this all comes with the territory. I feel myself growing and stretching daily and I know it’s not just me feeling this way. I know many of us are all navigating our 20-somethings together and I’m so grateful to be on this ride with you.